The secret in finding happiness lies withing yourself. This is truly the secret. You can't have tension AND happiness.
If you have any tension within you and your life, you must remove it. The following are some ways you can remove this tension and find happiness that is within.
1. You need to inhale love then exhale tension. You should spend 5 minutes doing just this as many times as you need too. Feel the love that is spreading throughout your whole body. Feel the happiness.
2. Forgiveness. This is an important key, if you can't forgive yourself, you'll find it very difficult to forgive others.
List things that still bother you that others have done, then go down this list and truly forgive them, and then forgive yourself for being upset towards them. It takes two people to have hard feelings.
If you were in peace and happiness when the transgression happened, you probably wouldn't have been bothered by it all that much. Feel the forgiveness and feel the happiness.
3. Visualize your entire day before going to bed. Bring up everything that had bothered you today. See in your mind how it unfolded, now visualize it the way you wish it had gone. Feel the happiness.
4. Meditate on a white light which brings you divine protection and it's surrounding you right now, it is sealing out all your negative experiences and thoughts.
Only purity and goodness can get through this glorious light. You will send only goodness back out through it. Feel the happiness.
5. After saying these phrases many times over you will be finding happiness. "I am loving. I love. I am loved. I love all creation and myself. Every single day and in every single way I'm better and better and better."
You can change change that last sentence to say "Every single day and in every single way I am happier and happier and happier." Feel the happiness.
In finding happiness you must travel within yourself and find that wonderful human being and really love that person.
In doing this you will find a wonderful happiness spread over you and it will stay with you.