Well, wouldn't it be exciting to purchase a pair of rosy-coloured eyeglasses, and always see the world all round us as pleasant and delightful? I hope that your reply is "Yes!" So let's look at one of the most vital building blocks of the "How to" of Happiness: Focus.
Yes, despite all of the fun and less exciting things happening in your Conscious and Unconscious Mind, you can prefer to focus on certain bits of details, and not on others. Where you put your focus helps to decide to a great extent your moment-to-moment level of Happiness.
This, very basically, is how it's viable to exist below a tarpaulin beside a rubbish tip in the Third World and smile. Now, it will be impractical to say that all the underprivileged people in, say, India are happy, but basically they totally fail to show the misery we (with our map of the world) expect them to.
Curiously, in their map of the world it's great that they are able to be together with their family all day (which maybe for some of us in the West could work about as well as staying beneath a tarpaulin!), and they look at us wandering unaccompanied throughout their nation, thousands of miles from our parents and siblings, and seemingly a fair few of them sense a intense sadness that we're losing on life's biggest delight. In the meantime we're focused on their poverty, unclean surroundings and the fact that they'll perhaps on no account be able to afford a coffee machine, and feel sorry for them.
When people say "Oh but my life is so difficult!" I refer them to this instance, and they need to acknowledge that yes, there are people with "difficult" lives who are happy - just with the strength of Focus. Which implies that, for them, their life is truly not so hard at all.
Fortunately, you don't have to grow up in the Third World to perceive the positive in your circumstances (though at times it appears to me that it helps!) But we do should be aware of few quite destructive cultural conditioning, which usually says to us "You do not have enough. Get more. You don't have enough. Hurry up before it is gone!"
The fact is, there will always be things we don't have - have a look at all the bits of the universe that even a multi-billionaire like Bill Gates does not have the wealth to purchase, or the time to get round to enjoying. If there's too much for him to purchase/ enjoy/ produce, what hope is there for us? So we can safely focus on what's in our grasp - the great things we already have in our lives, and the amazing things we are going to produce for ourselves!
Nowadays the majority of us have heard the idea "glass half full/glass half empty". This is an ideal example of the might of Focus. If you prefer to see the air above the beer, you will see a huge and hollow void, extending as far as you want it to. But if you prefer to look at the beer, you'll see beer. Or freshly squeezed tropical fruit juice. Or gold. Or love. Or Happiness.
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